Desperate Dad - Any Advice STRONGLY APPRECIATED!
My wife and I have been experiencing issues with our son sleeping through the night lately. He is a 14 month old boy and previously was an AMAZING sleeper. We had him a very strict routine for both his naps and bedtime sleeping. For about the last 6 weeks now he started fighting his afternoon nap. Often screaming and crying to point where you would just have to give up and skip the nap. We knew at the time that we had been entering that age where the transition from 2 to 1 naps would happen, but we also read that you shouldn’t force it or rush it and you have to “feel it out”. So often there where other days he would accept the nap fine because you could tell he was tired and we would bring him up for the nap and he would sleep as usual. Each of his two naps (if he took the afternoon nap) was about 1-1.5 hours each. If he has only 1 he tends to sleep for 2-2.5 hours. This process is still continuing….However the real issue came for bedtime. We would put him down for bed by 7:15 in the crib (sleeping by 7:15 / 7:30 latest, after bath and wind down period) he would go down for bed just fine and fall asleep easily - then almost exactly 1-1.5 hours later he wakes up and will not self sooth back to sleep. After some time we go up once its apparent he will not fall back asleep on his own and rock him in the chair back to sleep and put him back down in the crib. We know many say this is not ideal but we have tried to let him cry it out for over 30 minutes, tried to stand next to the crib and just place a hand on his chest without actually picking him up but he will continuously cry and not self sooth using these methods. Once we get him back down after rocking him (usually takes 30 minutes) until hes back asleep in the crib he often will awake again in the middle of night doing the same thing at around 12:30am or 1am. We again try to give him time to self sooth but doesnt work. It also takes numerous attempts evening when holding him in the rocking chair to finally get him back to sleep in the crib. The moment his body touches the crib again he instantly cries and wants to be picked back up, often taking 2 or 3 attempts to get him to finally fall asleep and stay in the crib. We have never experienced this before as he was always a great sleeper, barely woke from noise and slept straight through the night, his Nanit sleep score was always in the mid 90 percentile. We are dumbfounded as to what we are doing wrong. His room has blackout shades, we play the same white noise hes always had on since birth, we do the “wind down” period about 30-45 minutes before bed time with reading time and a bath, his diet has been fine, and the doctor at checkups says he is totally normal with no issues, we try feeding him in case his hungry when he wakes up at like 1:30am but often still takes multiple attempts to go down or denies the bottle all together, so we truly are puzzled. I would chalk it up to teething but it seems odd that especially his first wake up of the night is always 1-1.5 hours exactly after being put down that it would be pain hitting you daily at nearly the exact same times. Any help or guidance would be a tremendous help!!