5.5 months

How do i teach my baby (and myself) to put him to bed awake but not sleep for the night?

i have tried everything and it ends up in crying a lot , so i will pick him up to rock him to sleep (otherwise he will cry for a good 2-4 hours) .

also, when he goes down for the night he will wake up crying before 10pm and will cry until we put him to sleep again (after that he is good for the rest of the night).


  • DrMonicaOrdway
    DrMonicaOrdway Member, Expert

    @Kell If you have not tried gradual extinction, then it may be a good solution. Start with a bedtime routine that includes 4-5 bedtime routine activities that last a total of 20-30 minutes each night and are consistently performed. Develop a mantra like "good night, I love you, I will see you in the morning" and repeat that phrase each night before leaving the room. If/when he beings to cry, wait 10 minutes before going in then calmly and quietly go to his crib and repeat the mantra in the same tone and with the same calming effect. Leave the room and wait 15 minutes before returning to say your mantra with the same loving, but firm and calm tone. Repeat this process, adding 5 minutes between each time period you go to his room. Babies do not understand time, but the consistent bedtime routine that includes hearing your voice with the same words repeated can provide predictability and comfort. This process allows babies to gradually learn to fall asleep independently while at the same time feel the comfort that you are not far away.