Falling asleep on their own

The app keeps telling me to try and put the baby to sleep awake in her crib instead of letting her fall asleep while nursing or being rocked. I know that's the goal, but would love if the app can provide some guidance as to how to actually do that without the baby crying her head off when putting her down in the bassinet. Anyone have any tips?



  • I don't have any tips, I'm there with you. There's been a couple times my little one would put himself to sleep but not often. I have been trying to atleast lay him down in the crib than soothe him while he's laying there to get him to fall asleep instead of rocking. This seems to be working but still wouldn't be considered self soothing.

  • Erica
    Erica Member

    Try putting baby in the crib when she looks very sleepy, but not quite asleep.

  • With our son, we started by bottle feeding so he could be put down right after burping without too much jostling and wait until he was aaalmost asleep before laying him down. White noise was key to keep a consistent noise level and to drown out anything else.

    Once he could do that, we just waited more time between feeding and putting him down.

    By about 6 months, he was able to put himself to sleep and stay asleep throughout the night. Good luck!

    The main thing that made getting him to bed still sleepy was being able to bottle feed him so it was basically the very last thing to take care of before laying him down.

  • We've tried this, but the second she realized she's alone in the bassinet, she cried hysterically.

  • This was the hardest for us…. But after 3 weeks of practice bed time goes pretty well. It all depends on your level of comfort and I think the less cry the longer it takes but still worth it in the long run. We lay down awake and comfort but try to avoid picking him up at any cost. I could tell a different in his cries between a fuss and full cry. With fussing I’d try to stick it out not picking him up. In the beginning it was still 30-45 minutes to get him to sleep but after 2-3 weeks it was 10-15 minutes and now it’s a couple minutes and he’s asleep and all I do is put his pacifier back if it calls out. That’s usually all he needs now but that took a while and I cried as well.

  • We did the takingcarababies class but she puts advice on her blog and Instagram. Mostly it’s about routine, reading, bath, pjs, bottle in a dark room. Then when she’s almost asleep I lay her in her crib and hold her arms and gently bounce the mattress until she’s asleep. She wakes up but doesn’t cry just sucks her fingers to go back to sleep. She’s been sleeping 10 hrs since 2 months old.

  • How old is your baby?

    ive found it’s just as much a learning curve for mama than it is for baby. I am so quick to run to every noise and cry, but baby sometimes needs a few minutes of crying to fall asleep.

    set a timer for 3 minute increments so that you’re not accidentally overstimulating your baby while they try to fall asleep.

  • PDC
    PDC Member

    I haven't been able do this either. Night time is the only time I have to hold her and cuddle without distractions. 😪 I wait until my baby girl falls asleep, and I have a feeling that when she's not breastfeeding at night anymore I'm in for a world of trouble!

  • DNoelleC
    DNoelleC Member
    edited July 2021

    depending on her age you might need to let her cry it out a little. I had mine sleeping in the bassinet until he was about four months. I would have to put him in while he’s already sleeping otherwise he would cry. At four months he went through “sleep regression” and I was having to wake up every hour. I ended up moving him to his crib and trying the “gentle” cry it out method of ferberizing. It worked exceptionally well. Basically you wait till the baby is sleepy, not asleep, and then put them in the crib/bassinet then let them cry for set increments before you go to them. The first increment is three minutes, then five, then ten repeating. When you check on them, you just go in and try to comfort them for a minute or so. It is important to not pick the baby up though. This is a lot harder on mommy than the baby and it is a lot easier if you have a camera monitor because you can see them and know if they are really crying or just fussing a little bit. But again it is dependent on age. You can start at 4 months if they are going through sleep regression but typically they say babies cannot self-soothe until about five months. At any rate I tried this at 4 months and it has worked wonders. It was immediately effective too. I hope this helps!