My 4 month old

I’m struggling to get my 4 month old to go to bed before 10 pm. He’ll sleep through most nights till 6:30-7:30. He’s tired by 8 and just won’t go to sleep and stay asleep till later.

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  • DrMonicaOrdway
    DrMonicaOrdway Member, Expert
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    Hi @Damon14, at 4 months of age, babies are just beginning to develop sleep cycles and a biological rhythm. Thus, it is possible that his bedtime will become earlier. It is also possible that his bedtime is a little before 8pm and his signals of being tired at 8pm may be late signals. You might try to establish a bedtime routine that starts between 7 and 7:15pm and ends around 7:30pm to see if he will fall asleep earlier. The key to a bedtime routine is consistency. It is never too young to start a bedtime routine. A good bedtime routine includes 4-5 quiet activities that are done in the same order and at the same time each night. These activities should not last more than 20-30 minutes total and include an opportunity to have quality parent-child interaction. A few examples of good bedtime routine activities include: pick up toys; wash hands and face; brush teeth; put on pajamas; listen to music; sing a song (avoid energetic dancing); read a book (or two, but avoid developing a habit of ‘one more book’ and increase book reading at other times during the day instead); say prayers; share a good thing that happened during the day; hugs and kisses, etc. Early in infancy, you might develop a mantra like, “good night, I (we) love you, I (we) will see you in the morning” and repeat this every night as the last thing you say to your baby/child. This type of mantra can be helpful if children go on to develop bedtime resistance. Most importantly, allow your baby the opportunity to fall asleep independently to avoid a sleep association with you present. If they fall asleep during the routine then gently wake them so they are drowsy but awake when you leave the room with the comfort of hearing you repeat the mantra as you leave the room.

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  • DrMonicaOrdway
    DrMonicaOrdway Member, Expert
    Answer ✓

    Hi @Damon14, at 4 months of age, babies are just beginning to develop sleep cycles and a biological rhythm. Thus, it is possible that his bedtime will become earlier. It is also possible that his bedtime is a little before 8pm and his signals of being tired at 8pm may be late signals. You might try to establish a bedtime routine that starts between 7 and 7:15pm and ends around 7:30pm to see if he will fall asleep earlier. The key to a bedtime routine is consistency. It is never too young to start a bedtime routine. A good bedtime routine includes 4-5 quiet activities that are done in the same order and at the same time each night. These activities should not last more than 20-30 minutes total and include an opportunity to have quality parent-child interaction. A few examples of good bedtime routine activities include: pick up toys; wash hands and face; brush teeth; put on pajamas; listen to music; sing a song (avoid energetic dancing); read a book (or two, but avoid developing a habit of ‘one more book’ and increase book reading at other times during the day instead); say prayers; share a good thing that happened during the day; hugs and kisses, etc. Early in infancy, you might develop a mantra like, “good night, I (we) love you, I (we) will see you in the morning” and repeat this every night as the last thing you say to your baby/child. This type of mantra can be helpful if children go on to develop bedtime resistance. Most importantly, allow your baby the opportunity to fall asleep independently to avoid a sleep association with you present. If they fall asleep during the routine then gently wake them so they are drowsy but awake when you leave the room with the comfort of hearing you repeat the mantra as you leave the room.